Be Jubilant People

On this brisk October day, I am under the weather. Runny nose, cough, sneeze, you name it. This week my sneezes have been coming in 5's. With little to no time in between each. This confuses my body. It sends me into a state of uncontrolled spasms where I can't open my eyes, I have lost the knowledge of my location, and I am unable to stand upright. 

It's weird. 

Anyhoo... I have decided I am going to start adding "something I am all about" in each blog post. Because I want to share mine, and hopefully hear yours. Lately, I have been really focusing on little things that improve my way of life. They can be real little. I'm talking' tiny. But I am really over ignoring my needs as a person, and things that will improve my overall attitude. 

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SOMETHING I AM ALL ABOUT:

doing things that make you happy

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Okay, so this first one is really broad, but it is also one of my very clear truths. I think I am often filling my day with a million things that I don't really want to do. I say yes to everyone who asks me to go do something. I double book myself. Triple book myself. And it's not that I don't want to go see these people, but sometimes... it is. Overtime I have learned that friendship shouldn't be so hard. Yes, any relationship requires work and effort from both sides. But spending time around someone shouldn't feel difficult. This realization has made me start to value my 'easy' friendships. And again, this doesn't mean it doesn't require work of some kind. It means that loving this person is easy. Seeing them is easy. Sitting with them is easy. Silence with them is easy. My sister once said to me that she believed the sign of a good friendship is when you can sit in silence with them, comfortably. I think this is so true. And I don't think into our adulthood that we should have to do anything less.

   This seems harsh as I read it back to myself. And maybe this sort of is. But I think I have just reached a point where I find it acceptable to say that it is okay to not do the things that we don't want to do. If you don't feel like today you can muster up the energy to have one more surface conversation with the same person you have done that with before, then by all means, don't.

I want to clearly say, however, that meeting new people and giving everyone a chance is something I believe in with all my heart. But once you have done that, we need to be okay with accepting that we just simply won't mesh well with everyone. And it is better to do that than try to continuously force a relationship and leave feeling emptier than when you got there. Do not do things that empty you. Just don't do them. Yes, it is sometimes super hard to distinguish between the things that will empty you in the long run and the things that just suck for right now. For instance, working out sucks while you're doing it. Like really bad. With every step I try to come up with a good reason why I am doing this. But without fail, when I am done I have been filled a little bit more. And you know what, if I reach a day where I leave feeling empty, I will stop.

What I hope for you and for myself is that we can be people who can find the things that make us happy, and discard the things that don't. Don't underestimate the importance of being happy, and don't overestimate the effort towards trying to change the things we can't. 

Be jubilant people.

P.S. I want to hear what little things you do to make you happy. I'm open to all ideas.